posted on Mar, 24 2014 @ 12:43 PM
Looking for love is like bashing your head against a wall. If you find "love" that way you are deceiving yourself. And from your description, it's as
if nothing changed but that she left. That's unlikely. Something DID change between you, even if it was her becoming tired of your neediness. I'm
going to suggest that this is the heart of the problem here. It's quite a burden for anyone to bear and not everyone can take it. Without dwelling on
that, what do you do? And for God's sake don't argue with me or others who are providing advice. You asked for it. Here it is. Take it or leave it.
Be yourself. That sounds trite, but it has power behind it. I mean that you ought to do what interests you. The old adage, "Live as if you were going
to die tomorrow; study as if you were going to live forever." comes to mind. What are you interested in? Well, do it. Put yourself into that space.
Make it happen. If it can't happen immediately, make it a goal and move toward it. If you love flying, get a pilot's license. If you are interested in
paleontology, immerse yourself in it to the point where you know it intimately. If you enjoy woodworking, learn the trade. And whatever you do, learn
how to support yourself, too. I don't mean to be materialistic with a goal of getting rich; I mean support yourself so that your survival is not your
main focus. You're not going to learn to fly if you have trouble paying the rent. Whatever you decide to do likely costs some money to pull off. Don't
make the lack of it stop you.
Don't worry about the mythical "her," because you know what? She'll be there when you least expect it and when you least DESIRE it. She'll show up
when you are focused on something else. She'll be earning a pilot's license alongside you. She'll be working in the paleontology lab, or she'll run a
retail outlet that takes woodworking on consignment.
She's basically out there waiting for you to do something useful so that she can share it.
So get to it.
edit on 3/24/2014 by schuyler because: (no reason given)