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I will just own this one. ALONE.
reply to post by DeadSeraph
To the OP:
Make it right. Don't worry about what you have to lose right now, because you have far more to lose later by being dishonest.
Well, I have been cheated on before. A couple times. I also lived through a VERY bitter divorce as a child.
I always would prefer the person broke up with me and just not tell me about another taking my place. I wish my parents would have just left each other, but without succombing to their passions which led them to hurt each other. It was terrible.
Had they and every person who cheated on me, had a little consideration for others, Most would not have been so hurt.
I know what I have. I dont think many are understanding that I am not unhappy at home. I never wanted to replace my wife. I never wanted to hurt her. This woman is not worth it. My wife deserves for me to just deal with it.
I will simply man up and take this one. I will live with the guilt of it, the pain of it, and the consequences of it. I will just own this one. ALONE.
I cant ask her for help with this. My honesty will have to take a back seat to consideration for her.
edit on 3 21 2014 by tadaman because: (no reason given)
What the hell gives you the right to judge me.
reply to post by schuyler
well that was unecesarily bitter.
I would also let her hate me if it would help her somehow.
Delusions of grandeur ... I would let her hate me! ... sorry to inform you
if she hates you, you will have no say in the matter you do not control
the feelings of another .... your arrogance is breath taking.
"QUOTE" from your post
Love really is more than all this CRAP.
I know how to love. I am saying I love my wife. I love her to be there if she has cancer and withers away. I am there for her if she needs help kicking a heroin addiction. I am there to help her cope with the loss of a child, I am there to help her deal with HIV, I am there to deal with her depressions, anxieties, AND INFIDELITIES
BUT OBVIOUSLY NOT ENOUGH TO RESIST TEMPTATION!!!
despite you protestations other wise
I'll reserve my sympathies for your wife and child......edit on 21-3-2014 by eletheia because: (no reason given)
After 3 pages of posts, I have yet to see any real reflection of repentance, humility, and a heart that seeks forgiven
several here are rather tired of your self-serving statements
reply to post by tadaman
Try understanding human nature more so as to understand one more person.
Sadly I think you still do not understand human nature. For instance, you THINK you could now forgive if your wife had "fallen in love" AND had sex with another man while you are parted...I don't believe this to be true.
The falling in love with another is a betrayal far beyond sex. It would not happen unless pursued, when feelings are sparked faithful mature spouses remove themselves from temptation and danger by NOt going out for a drink.
I grew up with older sisters in a mostly female household of several generations of women in my family.
AND. My wife and I adore each other. Something must be working because we are not only never going to quit each other, but we would fight for each other as long as the other loves. There is strong, and then there is the next after that. I dont want to tell her but I dont think it would be the end of the world if she found out. In the end, this family stays strong. I could for her, and she could for me.
I am not ashamed of what I did ...
.... I will also not apologise for it.