I wish there was another way to find someone, other than dating. For me, it takes two or three dates to tell if I want to be with this person. With
the women I date that is not the case. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong, but it must be something.
Let me walk you through a typical date for me.
1. Meet woman at prearranged location for dinner.
2. Open door, pull out chair, allow her to order first, ect... you know, be a gentleman.
3. Try to have an interesting conversation. Learn about eachother, ect.
4. Ask to see eachother again, get told "Only as friends, I don't see us dating."
Okay, that was a very basic runthrough, I know. Nearly every time it seems like we've both had a good time and that there will be other dates but
there are not. Every time I'm told that "We should just be friends." I'm sorry, what did I miss?
I've tried every approach. Usually, I try the honest approach, which unfortunately for me means that because I'm a kind person who tries to please
whomever I'm around that there is no way possible that the woman will see me as anything romantic. I've tried the confident approach, but that doesn't
Maybe it's me, unfortunately nobody ever tells you just what you're doing wrong.
Any tips? I'm getting tired of providing free meals without so much as a second date.
Before any of you say "don't be so predictable, do something spontaneous." Most women aren't going to go anywhere with a guy that they just met that
isn't a public place.
ETA: What I'm saying is as long as a person isn't blatantly offensive or obviously up to no good, should'nt you give them the benefit of the doubt and
give it one more shot? How hard could a 2nd date be? I mean, who isn't nervous on a first date, right? So why not give a person a second chance if
they've already taken you out for a nice dinner and offered to take you out again?
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