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A New Jersey teenager claiming that her mother and father tossed her out of their home and cut her off financially is suing them for immediate support, current private-school fees and future college tuition. The parents, meanwhile, say that daughter Rachel Canning, 18, moved out voluntarily after refusing to abide by their rules.
“We love our child and miss her. This is terrible. It’s killing me and my wife,” Rachel's father, Sean Canning, a town administrator and retired police officer, tells the Daily Record. “We have a child we want home. We’re not Draconian and now we’re getting hauled into court. She’s demanding that we pay her bills but she doesn’t want to live at home, and she’s saying, ‘I don’t want to live under your rules.’”
The rules, he notes, include reconsidering her relationship with a boyfriend who may be a bad influence, being respectful, and abiding by her curfew. He and his wife, Elizabeth, who live in suburban Lincoln Park, about 25 miles outside of New York City, have kept their daughter’s car because they paid for it, says Canning, and he admits that they did stop paying Rachel's tuition at the private Morris Catholic High School. A hearing is scheduled to take place on Tuesday in the Morris County Superior Court.
I don't think that this should really be up to public debate as we don't honestly know what the circumstances were like in the home. Her accusation is that her parents are controlling and well, considering that they were the ones that placed her into a private high school than neglected to pay it as a method of getting their way, I'd say she probably is right. What kind of parent basically threatens their own child's future over a disagreement about who they are dating? An outstanding balance at her high school could equate to her high school diploma getting withheld. About $6000 of that $12k lawsuit is for that outstanding balance.
As far as the college fund is concerned, it's likely in her name but in trust through her parents. It's existence and her parents' probable affluence means that they absolutely hold the reigns on her ability to go to college. She'll be denied financial aid if she tries based on her parental income and the presence of that college fund.
I hope, for her sake, she wins the amount outstanding for the high school tuition and gets her college fund released so she can head to college this fall. She shouldn't have the rest of her life penalized because of a boy--not when teenaged girls are known to be fickle.
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I've been in her position and, at least for me, the extreme overbearing was just the proverbial tip of the iceberg. Affluent families can actually get away with far more abuse than an impoverished one. A lot of people that knew me as a teen thought for sure I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Most had no clue that CPS had actually been called to my home and had turned right around. When you're growing up in a family that is well off, in a nice house, wearing nice clothes and have a nice car, it's really quite amazing what can really go on behind those closed doors. In my case, by the time I was 16 years old, I was diagnosed with dissociative disorder with amnesia and childhood PTSD. To most, I wouldn't have looked any different from this young girl.
I know firsthand what damage can be done to a life because of actions like these and to this day, I know to never be vulnerable with my parents for that is a guarantee that abuse will follow. It's not to say that that is what her circumstances are like. She could very well be a spoiled brat. However, I personally would never withhold tuition for something as basic as high school and certainly wouldn't withhold college funds from either of my children just because I didn't like a boyfriend or girlfriend they had. Hell, if anything, that kind of thing is more likely to blow up in the parents' faces--Romeo and Juliet syndrome. Better to wait as it's likely to be a passing phase if they do happen to be right about the boy. Overall, it's not worth damaging the rest of her life over. Period.
Do you not think there will be more of this going on, if she actually wins???edit on 4-3-2014 by chiefsmom because: spelling as usualedit on 4-3-2014 by chiefsmom because: clarify
For months, Rachel — an honor student, cheerleader, and lacrosse player — has been living with the family of her best friend and classmate, Jaime Inglesino, whose father, attorney John Inglesino, is bankrolling Rachel’s lawsuit. He’s also requesting in the lawsuit that the Cannings reimburse him for the legal fees, so far totaling $12,597, according to the paper.