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Emotional leeches like the woman you mention have to be peeeeeelllleeed off. They do not let go on their own. You must be firm and consistent in saying "NO!". No, I won't help you move your refrigerator. No, I won't fix your brakes. No, I won't be dragged into your current or any future dramas. NO!
There was a time I had emotional leeches in my life because I essentially had seriously low self-esteem and genuinely wanted to be helpful to people who asked. I saw myself as good-hearted. They saw me as weak and disposable.
Her problems are not your problems. Those kind of leeches will keep dragging you back into their self-created dramas as long as you let them. Just say NO and mean it. Eventually you'll learn to spot them a mile away and within 10 seconds of them speaking. Until then, just practice saying NO. I've had some of my former leeches come back after 20 years telling me how they've changed and I just say, "good for you" and keep right on ignoring them. Never let a leech back into your life.
You have something of value to offer or she wouldn't keep you around within leash range. She obviously has nothing of value to offer or if she does, she's not offering it to you so, again, peel her off and save yourself.