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Should I at least tell her sorry about the dog?
She just told me her dog is dying, man...
What if she really does need a friend?
What harm could come from trying to console her?
A lot.. I can see how awful this is going to turn out. I don't want what's actually going to happen.
I want what would happen if this were the movies.
reply to post by chrismarco
I know, I know... Everything in my head and gut are telling me this is a bad idea, that I shouldn't, but my heart is telling me yes, that I should, that there's a chance she's developed late blooming feelings for me. I mean, it's possible.. But not probable.
I wish I could just snuff it out like a light, not feel it.
Please, listen to your gut. Your heart is only the wisps of wishful thinking. To spend time with her, will only lead to more pain.
"The best predictor of future behavior is … past behavior"
Good luck...your *gut* doesn't *lie* to you...
reply to post by Destinyone
I gave in, consoled her about the pet.
She proceeded to tell me a bunch of awful stuff about it. The animal sounds like it's in rough shape, bone cancer by what she said.
She says they're probably going to put it down tomorrow.
Why she chose now to contact me, I don't understand...
Why now, of all times?
And why do these feelings keep welling up inside me?
There was a girl I was friends with at first, then grew to love. She seemed smart, funny, classy, and pretty in a sort of nerdy way. She made me laugh, and we hung out, watched movies... It was perfect.
I grew to love her.
She didn't love me back, I think she didn't want to hurt my feelings at first, so she pretended to reciprocate.
Then, one day, she tells me the truth. That she didn't want to lose me as a friend, so she had faked it all to keep me happy.
She said the classic line... "We can still be friends.".
And for a time, I believed it.. But in my heart, I still loved her. She got with other guys, flaunted it in front of me..
I'd ignore her, go into a sort of emotional blue screen of death inside, and try not to act how strange I felt inside.
Eventually, I confessed my feelings for her a second time, and she said she knew. That she enjoyed keeping me around as what she termed, a "Boytoy", but that it wasn't serious. That she didn't find me attractive. But this sort of push and pull relationship went on for four years
I felt awful inside. After multiple incidents after that, I decided not to talk to her.
This worked for about a year of sporadic but mostly no contact.
Now, she asked if I wanted to hang out over spring break...
I do, but God help me, I know it's a bad idea. But I have to.
God, now she's doing the thing where she talks about how she wishes she could talk with her ex...
It's driving me mad.
She says she feels needy.
I mean, I guess those are her motivations on her sleeve.
Ughh. Why do I have that taste in my mouth, that lump in my throat?
reply to post by Grifter42
I can't do this again. All these old feelings. I have to stop this. I have to tell her I can't do this.
I can't have one sided feelings for her, while she keeps talking about some other guy who I can't hope to compete with.
Goddamn it all to hell.