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No...you didn't miss a thing. I was simply reacting to your reactions as this seems to be a touchy subject to you. We all have our stories of where the opposite sex has done something to wrong us.
What they are describing is not rape
and nowhere was simply looking at a woman included in that list.
Psychological rape consists of verbal harassment, whistles, kissing noises, heavy breathing, sly comments or stares.
What i was getting at was the big push, By Women, to have lads Mags and such removed from the top shelf because they objectify women, but at the same time keep the 50 shades trilogy or whatever it is on the top shelf.. Maybe i'm missing something.
tigertatzen
... it is just as degrading as someone putting their hands on you or pinching/grabbing your ass ...
No, erotica is porn for women. It is geared towards what a woman wants. When my wife has been reading her "romance novels" on her nook, it has the same effect on her libido as if i watch nekkie ladies.
tigertatzen
reply to post by boncho
Amazing what an edumication gets you these days. Make sure not to breath heavy or show interest in women, because you might be a rapist. Oddly enough, if you're at a bar, and a girl likes you, she might be mad you're not doing one or two of these… Must be the alcohol.
I wrote an essay on this very subject in college. Unless you are a woman and have been subjected to this type of behavior, please refrain from mocking things like this. That kind of crap can be downright scary. I don't own a vehicle and I walk everywhere or take the bus. I can tell you that this happens to me a lot, and it is never welcome. I am very good at taking care of myself but the reality is, I am a 117 lb. woman and if someone decided to attack me and they had me cornered, they might just get me. And some of the guys out there act like they just might. I carry four rolls of quarters in the bottom of my bag at all times just in case i need to drop someone with them...have for years.
At the very least, I find that behavior to be disgusting. Why would you breathe heavy in the general direction of a woman you don't know? I guess if you want her to think you're some revolting mouth-breather that would work. Whistling, catcalling, "hey baby"-ing, blowing kisses, staring a woman up and down, and my personal favorite...honking the horn in your car while a woman is walking down the street; all of those behaviors are the last thing that makes me go "oooh, i really want to hook up with that guy!" But the reason they refer to it as "psychological rape" is that it is just as degrading as someone putting their hands on you or pinching/grabbing your ass (i once knocked a man's molar out for that), or rubbing up against you...only without actually touching you. Why should any woman have to endure that kind of thing whenever she goes out in public? The answer to that is: she shouldn't have to.
Really???.... Looks like you fell for the 'always be a victim' brainwashing too... Sorry, but being sexually assaulted, vs some lame-ass whistling, or honking his horn are VERY different things. I see other guys do this shít here in FL regularly and I just laugh at what losers they are...
Why are you still defending the schools position they took it down? (And you contradict it in your own statements.)
What they are describing is not rape. It is obnoxious, unwelcome, bothersome and frightening to some people as well, but it is not rape. And they were erroneous in labeling it as such.
It wasn't an article it was a posting on a college website directed at students attending. This is supposed to be a place of learning and this obviously is part of what they are teaching their students.
and nowhere was simply looking at a woman included in that list.
Actually yes it was. I believe one portion mentioned "Staring". The list was not, "all of these acts combined", it was a list and stated, these are instances of psychological rape.
1look verb \ˈlu̇k\ : to direct your eyes in a particular direction : to seem to be something especially because of appearance : to have an appearance that is suitable for (something)
1stare verb \ˈster\ : to look at someone or something for a long time often with your eyes wide open1
to look fixedly often with wide-open eyes
2
: to show oneself conspicuously transitive verb
1
: to have an effect on by staring
2
: to look at with a searching or earnest gaze
— star·er noun
— stare one in the face
: to be undeniably and forcefully evident or apparent
Do you argue for the sake of arguing?
When did we as a race, become so pathetic, so politically correct, that the mere fact that a man whistles at a girl or pays her a compliment "woah babe" etc etc, from his car window, is considered a form of sexual assault.
tigertatzen
reply to post by andy1972
When did we as a race, become so pathetic, so politically correct, that the mere fact that a man whistles at a girl or pays her a compliment "woah babe" etc etc, from his car window, is considered a form of sexual assault.
I think even calling it a form of "sexual assault" is a huge exaggeration. The article immediately lost credibility because of trying to equate harassment with an act of rape. The behaviors I am referring to personally are not just a whistle and a compliment. I can't type what they say because if i did I would violate ToS. There is nothing wrong with someone paying another person a compliment. I am referring to aggressive behaviors...following people in the store or blocking their way, following them out to their car, saying really vulgar things...those types of behavior are degrading and for some people, very frightening. But by no means are they a form of sexual assault.
tigertatzenI was indeed a victim. But I am not now, nor will I ever be again.
What I was referring to is the violation of personal space, the harassment, the stalking, the driving up behind you while you're walking and blaring the car horn, the blowing kisses to a person you don't even know, is just as much of a degradation as having your ass grabbed. And it is.
The reason they referred to it as "rape" was because one of the definitions of rape is that it is a violation, a "spoiling" of a place or a thing. They used that as a loophole to insert a word into the title that they knew would be guaranteed to get attention, as is fairly typical of journalism to do. Should they have picked another term? Yes, absolutely. Is this the first time I have said on this thread? No, and I am getting tired of repeating myself.
boncho
reply to post by tigertatzen
What they are describing is not rape
Why are you still defending the schools position they took it down? (And you contradict it in your own statements.)
and nowhere was simply looking at a woman included in that list.
Actually yes it was. I believe one portion mentioned "Staring". The list was not, "all of these acts combined", it was a list and stated, these are instances of psychological rape.
Psychological rape consists of verbal harassment, whistles, kissing noises, heavy breathing, sly comments or stares.
Do you argue for the sake of arguing?edit on 7-3-2014 by boncho because: (no reason given)edit on 7-3-2014 by boncho because: (no reason given)
You WERE a victim of sexual assault. But stop playing the victim when it's not anything like that. YOU were the one who equated whistling with actually being touched. Big difference!
What I was referring to is the violation of personal space, the harassment, the stalking, the driving up behind you while you're walking and blaring the car horn, the blowing kisses to a person you don't even know, is just as much of a degradation as having your ass grabbed. And it is.
And YET AGAIN there you go equating two MASSIVELY different things.
Thank your for acknowledging that this nonsense trivializes actual rape victims
taoistguy
well, i'm outta this thread. there seems to be some who just don't understand the political, social, cultural and historical issues and some who don't want to. nothing more can be said.
The article is overexagerated example of how we as society have changed for the worse this century...and i don't see it getting any better.
Same here...round and round and round where we go.