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James1982
taoistguy
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WilsonWilson
reply to post by ketsuko
I don't believe are being taught to behave like men, we are being taught that there is nothing wrong with being sexual, that we are not dirty because we have the same sexual urges as men. Getting rid of double standard used to control women's sexuality.
I do think there is an issue with promiscuity but from the viewpoint that it does lead people to have no concern with people only sex. Sex should be a means of sharing with others not taking what you want.
Rape is about taking what you want. Having power over another.
Wearing a short skirt and liking sex does not give anybody the right to rape you.
Trying to link women who act that way and being raped is trying to take the focus and blame set from the man and place it on the woman.
Wearing a short skirt does not give anyone the right to rape you, no.
Why did you say that? Did anyone in this thread suggest such a thing? no.
If a woman wears a short skirt, and goes out into public, don't complain about getting looked at. If I go out in public with a bananna in my pants, people will stare at my crotch. That's life.
Nobody has the right to touch you, or harass you, but you don't have the right to walk around public without getting looked at either, nobody does, man or woman.
there's a differnce to being looked at cos you have done something odd, compared to constantly being ogled and objectified an under the threat of violence.
What does "under the threat of violence" mean?
A man has the physical ability to overpower a woman, therefore it's assumed he will exercise that ability?
Do I have the same rights, if my girlfriend is cooking dinner and has a big knife in her hand? She has the physical ability, therefore I assume she will use it. Got it. Next time that happens I'll make sure to call 911 and report that I'm being raped.
taoistguy
James1982
taoistguy
James1982
WilsonWilson
reply to post by ketsuko
I don't believe are being taught to behave like men, we are being taught that there is nothing wrong with being sexual, that we are not dirty because we have the same sexual urges as men. Getting rid of double standard used to control women's sexuality.
I do think there is an issue with promiscuity but from the viewpoint that it does lead people to have no concern with people only sex. Sex should be a means of sharing with others not taking what you want.
Rape is about taking what you want. Having power over another.
Wearing a short skirt and liking sex does not give anybody the right to rape you.
Trying to link women who act that way and being raped is trying to take the focus and blame set from the man and place it on the woman.
Wearing a short skirt does not give anyone the right to rape you, no.
Why did you say that? Did anyone in this thread suggest such a thing? no.
If a woman wears a short skirt, and goes out into public, don't complain about getting looked at. If I go out in public with a bananna in my pants, people will stare at my crotch. That's life.
Nobody has the right to touch you, or harass you, but you don't have the right to walk around public without getting looked at either, nobody does, man or woman.
there's a differnce to being looked at cos you have done something odd, compared to constantly being ogled and objectified an under the threat of violence.
What does "under the threat of violence" mean?
A man has the physical ability to overpower a woman, therefore it's assumed he will exercise that ability?
Do I have the same rights, if my girlfriend is cooking dinner and has a big knife in her hand? She has the physical ability, therefore I assume she will use it. Got it. Next time that happens I'll make sure to call 911 and report that I'm being raped.
you are eithyer being silly or not understanding my point.
women know that rape is a real possibility. them and many of their friends have been 'touched' inappropriately many times.
they have mor or less learnt who to avoid to escape any real danger, but not every woman is so lucky.
comments and certain behaviour from so0e men who don't respect the boundaries makes womem always have to be on guard.
i know i wouln't want to spend my life like that.
it's not that it's assumed he will exercise that ability, but it is possible- and if that possibility becomes actual then the end result is not nice.
reply to post by Soloprotocol
50 shades of....Biggest selling deviant Sex Manual since De Sade...And who do you find reads it....Woman...who do you find keeps it at number 1 on most good bookstore shelves...Woman. Women do a perfectly good job at objectifying themselves..
The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." -Albert Einstein
reply to post by amraks
so when I woof whistle at my parrot, I am psychological raping him
For males we are stuck with the question "have you ever shyly looked at a woman?" and then once we say yes we are now a physiological rapist....
As a female gamer, I deal with this frequently. While it makes my uncomfortable, I don't feel threatened because it isn't in real life. However, when I experience it in real life, I am terrified. Because this type really does come across as "I would rape you in a dark alley if i could get away with it." instead of "I would like to take you out to dinner and get to know you better."
tigertatzen
reply to post by amraks
so when I woof whistle at my parrot, I am psychological raping him
If you wolf-whistle at your parrot because you are trying to pick up on him with unwelcome and degrading sexual advances, as we are discussing here, I would venture to say that stopping would probably be a good idea at the very least...maybe followed by some counseling sessions. For both of you. Immediately.
On the other hand, if you're wolf-whistling at your parrot because you are trying to teach him to whistle back at you...I mean, i am by no stretch of the imagination an expert in veterinary medicine but...I think he will be just fine.
tigertatzen
reply to post by Xtrozero
For males we are stuck with the question "have you ever shyly looked at a woman?" and then once we say yes we are now a physiological rapist....
I'm sorry but what you are describing and what is described in the OP are not remotely the same thing. "Shyly looking" at a woman is not the issue. The blatant staring, the stalking, the whistling and lascivious remarks, the blowing of kisses...I even had one man snap his fingers at me as if I were a dog. That is the behavior we are talking about. Not some shy, innocent smile. That is another example of taking something and running with it. Absolutely no one is saying that glancing at a person is rude. Honestly, I think the next time I go to the store I will take a video so you all can see firsthand what we are talking about.
WilsonWilson
reply to post by bigfatfurrytexan
You are a hypocrite. The logical fallacy is yours. You are trying to make your argument stronger by implying someone would disagree with it using an illogical argument. This hasn't actually happened on this thread. And i've never seen somebody say it's sexist to say men are physically stronger. It's certainly not a common view for women to have. But if you make out it is you invalidate their views.
James1982
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reply to post by bigfatfurrytexan
It wouldn't happen, but if you're obviously hoping to gain something by saying it would.
Yes, it would, and it has. There are countless women who have said that women are just as strong as men, they can do anything a man can do.
Well guess what, if you can do anything a man can do, you can rape too. Can't have it both ways.